Absence makes the heart grows fonder. Does this popular saying hold true when it comes to a long distance relationship? Despite being thousands of miles apart from each other, can you make this type of relationship work?
How can you make this relationship successful despite not being physically together? Believe it or not, it is very common. Being in a long-distance relationship is undoubtedly not easy, yet if you love each other you will do everything to make it work. Here are some tips on how to maintain your long distance relationship:
Communication is Key
Communication is important in a normal relationship, but in a long-distance relationship, having good communication with your partner is critical. Since you are not able to satisfy the need of physical presence and touch of each other, communication should make up for this lost factor.
Though miles apart, make each other feel like you’re physically close through constant communication. We’re lucky that we live in a period where different methods of communication are available–email, phone calls, direct message, social media, etc.
Make it a point to set a time every day that you talk about how your day went. Utilize these forms of communication to the fullest, send a random sweet quote, or take a picture of yourself and send it to your partner. This makes your partner feel appreciated and constantly in your thoughts. You also have to be understanding and patient if your partner is too tired or too busy to answer the phone or text back right away.
Keep the Conversations Interesting
When you’re physically together, conversation is not really that in demand. You are allowed to have lazy time together where one reads a book, while the other watches television. You don’t have to force conversation if you’re contently lying beside each other.
It’s a different story when it comes to a long-distance relationship. Since conversation is what holds most of your relationship together, it needs to be interesting, fun, and creative. Ask interesting questions to initiate an open conversation.
Be Creative in Sharing Daily Life Together
With most of our generation spending hours on the internet and social media, being connected despite the distance has never been this easy. Make an effort to include your partner in your daily life. Does your partner have an important job interview? Be a personal alarm clock by calling early in the morning to wake your partner up. It’s also a great way to prep and encourage your partner for the day ahead.
Want to have a movie date? Download the same movie on your smartphone or computer and watch it together at the same time. You can even do facetime or video chat while watching the movie. It’s these little efforts that will bring you closer together.
Make the Big Decisions in Person
Since the tone of voice is absent in written communication, lots of misinterpretations and misunderstandings can happen. Avoid miscommunication by making the big decisions in person.
Do you plan on quitting your job and moving to the same city as your partner? Before you hand in that resignation letter, make sure that you make this decision together and in person. This will make the other partner feel respected and valued. It’s not going to go over as well if you only talk about it on the phone.
Prioritize Visiting Each Other
Nothing beats being physically together. Though this may not be possible 24/7, make it an effort to plan visits or trips together. Depending on how far you are from each other and other factors, seeing each other from time to time adds more spark to your relationship.
Plan the frequency of these visits. Take time off from work if you have to and visit your partner. If distance is the issue, you can even meet in the middle. Take a trip together and book at a couples all-inclusive resort, be sure not to choose a family-friendly resort, for this type of resort is not as intimate and romantic. Spending quality time together will allow you to know each other better.
Respect Each Other’s Differences
Remember that you are two different individuals with different emotions, needs, and tolerance levels. You may miss each other at different levels or circumstances. You may crave for affection more often than the other. The other may be more expressive of feeling more than you.
Disappointments happen when our needs and demands are not met. To avoid this from happening, tailor-fit your expectations to your partner’s personality. Focus on each other’s strengths and positive attributes instead of the negative side.
Enjoy Your Life Being Apart
While you two may love spending all of your time together, your universe does not have to solely rely on each other. Enjoy and celebrate your life being apart. Build a strong circle of friends and maintain closer family ties. You won’t be able to fully enjoy your life together if you don’t enjoy your individuality.
Love is not always enough to make long-distance relationship work. You have to have an ample amount of trust with each other and work hard to make it through despite the distance. It isn’t always easy, but it is definitely worth it in the long run.